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Trying to get governments to value women's work is hardly new. Sarah Hale worked for it. She is the writer of Mary Had a Little Lamb.  And over the years we can get our ire up noticing how negatively some have spoken of women and  then be inspired by the words of those who fought for recognition of women's equality.


Here are some quotes you may find useful in the struggle.

 

 

feminism, women

1976 – Arlene Rossen Cardozo  Woman at Home – It is dangerous to make a new norm that every woman must work outside the home in order to achieve self-worth

 

Sondra Gotlieb – Women who deliberately stay at home for reasons of the heart care certainly as liberated as the movers and shakers. It’s time they stopped feeling debased by the notions of the ideologues of the women’s movement

 

1837 – Sarah Grimke

I believe the laws which deprive married women of their rights and privileges have a tendency to lessen them in their own estimation as moral and responsible beings

 

1860s – Blanche Glassman Hersh‘ The True Woman and the New Woman in Nineteenth Century America”

The feminists expressed a firm belief that woman’s  highest and most sacred duty was to the home and they shared society’s view of woman as moral guardian of the family and the nation

 

1915 – Nellie McClung- women who set a low value on themselves make life hard for all women

 

1983 – Amelia Bloomer –On Housekeeping- Woman’s Burdens

Why cannot the cooing and washing and sewing be all attended to in a cooperative establishment and thus relieve women and mothers particularly of the heavy burdens their fourfold labors now impose upon them and give them time for self-improvement and the care and culture of their children?

 

1915 – Nellie McClung- In Times Like These

We hear too much about the burden of motherhood and too little of its benefits..The average child broadens our outlooks, quickens  our sympathies and hands us, if we will but let him… all truth

 

1930- Eleanor Raylor

Most women are or will become mothers and any feminist movement which ignores their problems invites failure. Mothers are too self-effacing and do not recognize their own worth

 

1940 – Harriet Stanton Blatch and Alma Lutz ‘ Challenging Years”

Motherhood must be revalued, not over-emphasized, not sentimentalized and surrounded with an aura of glory but viewed in an intelligent sensible light. To this end I recommend motherhood endowment. Through motherhood endowment  mother of tomorrow will escape perpetual tutelage.. Setting her free will repay the world.

 

equality

Aristotle – Equality consists in the same treatment of similar persons

Michel de Montaigne- 1500s ? France – Women are not altogether wrong when they refuse the rules of life prescribed to the world for men only have established them and without their consent

 

forced dependency

1867 Elizabeth Cady Stanton – Your laws degrade rather than exalt woman. Your customs cripple rather than free .Your system of taxation is alike ungenerous and unjust

 

1883 – Lillie Devereux Blake ‘ Women’s Place Today” 

Even where a woman does all the work of a family, rising early and late taking rest, cooking and washing, cleaning and mending, and performing all sorts of housework her husband will talk of ‘supporting her’ and never seems to think that he owes her any wages for her labor

 

legal avenues – law justice

freedom

UN Declaration- Mankind owes to the child the best it has to give

 

divorce

1881 Elizabeth Cady Stanton –

Think you that the woman who has worked hard all her days in helping her husband to accumulate a large property consents to the law that places this wholly at his disposal?

 

economics/ productivity

1969- Margaret Benton – The Political Economy of Women’s Liberation –

At present, the support of a family is a hidden tax on the wage earner – his wage buys the labor power of two people

 

1898 – Charlotte Perkins Gilman – Women and Economics

The labor of women in the house certainly enables men to produce more wealth than they otherwise could and in this way women are economic factors in society

 

1970 – Royal Commission on the Status of Women

 The housewife who remains at home is just as much a producer of good s and services as the paid worker.

 

Herbert Hoover – Children are our most valuable natural resource

 

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unpaid labor

1876 – Harriet Robinson- Mass.  The census does not include the services of the mother and daughter among the paid vocations, though as is well known, in many instances they do all the housework of the family. They get no wages and therefore do not appear among the ‘useful classes’ They are not earners but savers of money. A one-saver is not a recognized  factor either in political economy or in the State census

 

1946 – Hannah Mitchell “ The Hard Way Up”  No wonder it is so difficult to interest married women in social reform. The modern demand for a 40 hour week seems like a job to the wife and mother who is lucky if hers is only a 70 hour week

 

1970 – Royal Commission the Status of Women

Married women the study emphasizes, usually make a major contribution to the family through the provision of housekeeping and child-care services. These services have an economic value, even though they are not included in the estimates of the Gross Domestic Product, because they cannot yet be adequately measured. They represent an income in kind what is just as valuable to the family as cash income

 

1980 –Meg Luxton- More than a Labour of Love- Three Generations of Women’s Work in the Home” –

Children are people but they are also objects of labour…While children are young, child care is also full-timework

 

1981 – Rae Andre “Homemakers; the forgotten workers”

Housewives have been told that their contributions are priceless but they receive fewer of the benefits our society provides even its lowest paid members – no salary, no unemployment insurance, no federal support, no pension

 

1975 – June Menzies ‘The Uncounted House; The Perception of Women in Policy Formulation
Women cannot attain economic equality as long as the major economic role they perform is outside the economy and is disregarded in policy formulation. As long as we exclude the household and the labour performed within it from the legitimate economic framework of our society, women cannot attain equality and they will not be able to share in the benefits of society proportionately to the contribution they make of it

 

1978 – Monique Proulx “Five Million Women: The value of household work”

Housewives are not considered to be part of the productive labor force. The fact that their work is not included in the national accounts is a clear indication of this. Nevertheless, their invisible and unpaid work ensures the maintenance and renewal of the current labour force at the same time that it produces the next generation of workers

 

child health/ stress/ illness/ medical

parenting, children

Benjamin Bloom – By the time a child reaches four he or she will have accumulated 50% of his or her mature intelligence

 

1940-s John Bowlby

What is believed to be essential for mental health is that the infant and young child should experience a warm intimate and continuous relationship with his mother (or permanent mother substitute) in which both find mutual satisfaction

 

 

 

dad/father

 

Richter- the words a father speaks of his children in the privacy of the home are not overheard at the time but as in whispering galleries, they will be clearly herd at the end and by posterity

 

 

 

money/ kids

There is only class in the community that thinks more about money than the rich,a nd that is the poor- Oscar Wilde


A father is someone who carries pictures where his money used to be – Lion

 

A mother is a person who, seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie – Tenneva Jordan

 

Parents are people who bear infants, bore teena-gers and board nearly-weds Paul V. Hale

 

Money is coined liberty – Dostoevski’ The House of the Dead”

 

feminism, women

 

A right is not what someone gives you; it’s what no one can take away from you- Ramsey Clark

 

forced dependency

The economic dependence of women is perhaps the greatest injustice that has been done to us, and has worked the greatest injury to the race – Nellie McClung

 

Women are frequently referred to as poultry. We cluck at hen parties. When we aren’t henpecking men, we are egging them on. In youth we are chicks. Mothers watch over their broods. Later we are old biddies with an empty-nest syndrome.  Is it just a coincidence that so many women’s ages are chicken feed? (Association of Operating Nurses Journal)

 

legal avenues – law justice

freedom

 

Justice is the tolerable accommodation of the conflicting interests of society – Learned Hand

 

the bias against being homemaker

Women are decorative sex; they never have anything to say but they say it charmingly – Oscar Wilde

 

Women are one and all a set of vulture s- Petronius “Satyricon”

 

Home is a charitable institution for indolent women. August Strindberg

 

When one has been threatened with a great injustice, one accepts a smaller as a favor. Mrs. Thomas Carlyle


The fundamentals of justice are that no one shall suffer wrong and that the public good be served – Cicero

 

 

Delay of justice is injustice – Walter Savage Landor

 

Let us have faith that right makes might – Abraham Lincoln

 

I disapprove of what you have to say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it - Voltaire

In giving rights to others which belong to them we give rights to ourselves and to our country –J. F. Kennedy

 

economics/ productivity

Money is the mother’s milk of politics – Jesse Unruh

 

unpaid labor

the moral problem of our age is concerned with the love of money, with the habitual appeal to the money motive n ine-tenths of the activities of life – J. M. Keynes (use?)

 

Keeping house is like threading beads on a string with no knot at the end – Capper’s Weekly

child health/ stress/ illness/ medical

parenting, children

 

What’s done to children, they will do to society – Karl Menninger

 

Children can forgive their parents for being wrong, but weakness sends them elsewhere for strength- Leontine Young

 

Home is where life makes up its mind – Hazen Werner

 

education, school. learning

I have never let my schooling interfere with my education-  Mark Twain

 

The home is the nursery of the infinite – William Channing


When you educate a womna you educate a whole family – McIver
The childhood shows the man, as morning shows the day – Milton

 

The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom – Henry Ward Beecher

 

The parent  is and remains the first and most important teacher that the child will ever have – Rabbi Kassel Abelson


Education is too important to be left solely to the educators- Francis Kappel

He who opens a school door, closes a prison- Victor Hugo

 

Children are not a handicap to any woman. They open up a new world to their mothers, the rainbow-hued world of childhood, with its delightful confidence and the unforgettable times when, all the world shut uot, mother and hicl wander together through the world of books  -Nellie McClung 1928 Macleans Magazine

 

Your conscience is what your mother told you before you were six years old – Brock Chisholm, Toronto psychiatrist – Macleans Magazine 1946

 

You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him to find it within himself- Galileo

 

A child’s education should begin at least one hundred years before he was born – Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

money, family finance, poverty

Families with babies and families without babies are sorry for each other – Ed Howe

 

Never ask of money spent

Where the spender think s it went

Nobody was ever meant

To remember or invent

What he did with every cent –Robert Frost


Dependent poverty ought to be held disgraceful – Thomas Robert Malthus

 

Running into debt isn’t such a bad thing. It’s running into your creditors that’s so embarrassing -Puck

 

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health of parent

When mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy

There are time when parenthood seems nothing more than feeding the hand that bites you – Peter de Vries

 

Parents are the b ones on which children sharpen their teeth – Peter Ustinov

 

caregiving, support,

The best investment a nation can make is putting milk into babies – Churchill (ap)

 

Children are the songs and daughters of life’s longing for itself – Kahlil Gibran

 

A child is life’s  opinion that the world should go on

 

work, labor,

When I see a mother with her child, I know I am watching a woman at work (ap) Waring

 

I’ve been working all my life but somehow it seems longer – Robert Orben

 

Apparently you’re not at work when you’re in labor.

 

child care

Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up children; now I have six children, and no theories. Lord Rochester

The child is father of the man – William Wordsworth

 

dad/father

Paternity is a career imposed on  you without any inquiry into your fitness- Adlai E. Stevenson

The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother – Theodore M. Hesburgh


False consolations (possible or sometimes true sayings that some turn to, to  justify keeping caregivers down)

Children are poor men’s riches – Thomas Fuller
The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world W. S. Ross

Of all the rights of women, the greatest is to be a mother – Lin Yutang

No man is poor who has had a godly mother – Abraham Lincoln

A hearth is no hearth unless a woman sit by it – Richard Jefferies

The soul is healed by being with children – Fyodor Dostoevsky

I never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun – Thomas Edison

 

It is easy when we are in prosperity to give advice to the afflicted –Aeschylus

Poverty site by the cradle and rocks the child to greatness.?

Poverty is the step-mother of genius – Josh Billings

When some men discharge an obligation, you can hear the report for miles around – Mark Twain

 

civil rights

 

Don’t knock the rich. When was the last time you were hired by somebody poor? (Robert Orben)

 

A heavy guilt rests upon us for what the whites of all nations have done to the colored peoples. When we do good to them, it is not benevolence – it is atonement – Albert Schweitzer

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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